Wow Days and Vow Days

We have two weddings down, and one left for this summer. Every summer we have friends that get married, and we love to be able to celebrate with them. I have to admit, that attending weddings as a single person was different than when being married. Both have their benefits, but I would trade anything for being able to take Kevin with me. It sure beats the invitation that says “One place has been reserved for you.”

We attended the wedding of Brian Cavazos to Elizabeth Brown on June 21 in Lake Arrowhead. It was beautiful, and it was nice to be up the hill where it was warm, but definitely cooler than down in Riverside. Kevin was a groomsman, and I think he looks so cute in his tux. He has that boyish charm I love. We had a wonderful time attending a wedding with all of our friends.

Being the best man at Colin’s wedding a few weeks ago, Kevin got to give a speech. And just like Colin did at our wedding, Kevin told jokes and stories that only Colin and a few of their buddies laughed at. It went right over our heads. But being the old married guy (of a year and a half), Kevin got to share his marital words of advice. “There are going to be wow days and vow days. Days where you are in awe of the spouse you chose. But then there are days when the spouse that you chose, doesn’t really want to be . . . the spouse that you chose. They simply drive you nuts. But either way, I strongly encourage you as you begin your family, to choose to make the decision to love each other.”

Of course the concept of wow days and vow days was not our own. Coach Rick York presented it to Kevin during our pre-marital counseling. Coach got it from Guy and Roxanna Grimes. I’m not sure if they were the first, but the idea remains. Not every day is a walk in the park, or a wow day; but when we choose to love each other and meet the others needs first, our needs will inevitably be met. If all else fails, repeat Coach’s mantra; “I love my wife, I love my wife, I love my wife.” Even when you don’t like the way she loads the dishwasher!

So far, the married part hasn’t been difficult, it’s the roommate part. Learning to share my stuff and space was harder than I thought, but if Kevin had asked any of my former roommates, I’m sure they would have warned him. But after a time, we figured it out. We will continue to have wow days and vow days, but we continue to work hard to meet each other’s needs.